ROCHESTER, Minn. — In a jaw-dropping moment caught on video, an 18-year-old high school senior rushes to escape from the hospital that saved her life and then, she says, held her captive.
At the entrance to the world-renowned Mayo Clinic, the young woman’s stepfather helps her out of a wheelchair and into the family car.
Staff members come running toward him, yelling “No! No!” One of them grabs the young woman’s arm.
“Get your hands off my daughter!” her stepfather yells.
The car speeds away, the stepfather and the patient inside, her mother at the wheel.
Mayo security calls 911.
“We have had a patient abduction,” the security officer tells police, according to a transcript of the call.
The patient’s name is Alyssa Gilderhus.
She and her family say she wasn’t abducted from the Mayo Clinic in February 2017; instead, she escaped. They say the hospital was keeping her there against her will — that Mayo “medically kidnapped” her.
Unhappy with the care she was receiving at Mayo, they say, they repeatedly asked for her to be transferred to another hospital. They say Mayo refused.
According to police, Mayo officials had a different plan for Gilderhus: They had asked the county for assistance in “gaining guardianship of Alyssa,” who was an adult.
A spokeswoman for the Mayo Clinic said hospital officials would be willing to answer questions if Gilderhus signed a privacy release form giving them permission to discuss her case publicly. The spokeswoman, Ginger Plumbo, supplied that form.
Gilderhus signed the form, but Plumbo declined to answer questions on the record.
Instead, she provided a statement, which said in part, “We will not address these questionable allegations or publicly share the facts of this complex situation, because we do not believe it’s in the best interest of the patient and the family. … Our internal review determined that the care team’s actions were true to Mayo Clinic’s primary value that the patient’s needs come first. We acted in a manner that honored that value for this patient and that also took into account the safety and well-being of the team caring for the patient.”
This story is based on interviews with Gilderhus and members of her family, a family friend, law enforcement officials and a former member of a Mayo Clinic board, as well as documents including law enforcement records and Gilderhus’ medical records.
By everyone’s account, this is an unfortunate and devastating story about a bitter clash that went out of control — a clash between a Minnesota farm family and one of the world’s most revered hospitals.
“It’s confusing to me why this went off the rails so horribly,” said Richard Saver, a professor at the University of North Carolina School of Law, who reviewed medical and legal documents that the family and law enforcement officials provided.
Art Caplan, head of the Division of Medical Ethics at the New York University School of Medicine, also reviewed the documents, and he agrees.
“This should never have happened,” he said. “This is a cautionary tale.”
The relationship between Gilderhus’ family and the Mayo Clinic started off well.
On Christmas morning 2016, Gilderhus settled in with a mug of hot chocolate to open her gifts. She was surrounded by her large family: Her mother, Amber Engebretson, a stay-at-home mom; Duane Engebretson, her stepfather since she was 4 years old, who manages a construction company and the family’s farms; and her five younger siblings, then 18 months to 11 years old.
They live in Sherburn, Minnesota, population just more than 1,000 people, about 150 miles southwest of Minneapolis, on a farm with sheep, cows, horses and pigs.
Gilderhus was thrilled with her first Christmas present: A pair of cowboy boots emblazoned with the emblem of the Future Farmers of America, her favorite club.
Then she went to the bathroom. Her parents heard screaming.
“Mom, I need you,” Gilderhus yelled as she lay curled up on the floor, vomiting.
It was immediately obvious this was much more than just a stomach bug. Her left side was very weak, and she couldn’t hear out of her left ear.
“You could see looking at her that she was petrified,” her stepfather said.
He called an ambulance. A hospital determined Gilderhus, who’d always been healthy, had a ruptured brain aneurysm: A blood vessel inside her brain had suddenly and unexpectedly burst.
Surgeons explained that her life was on the line. They drilled a hole in her skull to relieve the pressure on her brain.
A nurse gave her parents a bag of Gilderhus’ hair, which had been shaved off for the operation. Some people liked to have it, she said.
The Engebretsons cried as they considered that this bag of hair — their daughter’s long, beautiful hair — might be all they had left if she died.
They begged to have her sent to the Mayo Clinic. The main campus for the world-renowned medical center was 85 miles away in Rochester, Minnesota.
“They’re the best. People come from all over the world to go to Mayo,” said Amber Engebretson, who worked as a vehicle inspector for the Minnesota State Patrol before staying home to care for her family.
But Gilderhus couldn’t get to Mayo immediately. There was an ice storm. Ambulances couldn’t drive, and helicopters couldn’t fly.
The weather eventually broke, and about 7 p.m. — about nine hours after the aneurysm — Gilderhus finally arrived by ambulance at Mayo headquarters.
On Christmas night, surgeons gave her a 2 percent chance of living, her parents said. Doctors wrote in her medical record that her prognosis was “grim.”
Her parents reached out on Facebook for prayers. They called their daughter the #Christmasmiraclegirl.
Gilderhus lived up to that name. She survived, thanks to four brain surgeries over the next month. Her doctors were ecstatic.
“They were like, she’s not supposed to be here. She beat the odds,” her stepfather said.
“Mayo neurosurgeons saved her life,” added her mother. “We’ll be grateful to them forever.”
On Jan. 30, Alyssa was transferred from the neurology unit to the rehabilitation unit.
It should have been a happy turning point. But that’s when the troubles began.
Although all had gone smoothly on the neurology floor, the family got into conflicts with the rehab staff almost immediately.
First, doctors there wanted to take Gilderhus off oxycodone, a powerful opioid painkiller that the neurology doctors had prescribed for pain after surgery.
Her most recent surgery — the fourth in one month — had been just a few days before.
“She’d lay in bed with tears coming out of her eyes because she was in so much pain,” her stepfather said.
Many medical authorities, including the Mayo Clinic’s website, say opioids are critical for post-surgical pain management.
A week after Gilderhus arrived on the rehabilitation floor, her mother shared her feelings on Facebook.
“[Alyssa’s] and my frustration level was high and it seems that they just don’t listen sometimes,” Amber Engebretson wrote on Feb. 7.
More disputes arose. Her parents say their daughter’s breathing tube was the wrong size, and they had to pester doctors to get it corrected.
They also say the family — not doctors — discovered that she had a bladder infection. They say a social worker discussed private financial information within earshot of visiting friends and relatives.
Her parents asked for the social worker and a doctor to be replaced.
“We just need someone who will at least listen to us and hear us,” Amber Engebretson wrote on her Facebook page on Feb. 20.
Gilderhus; parents say that at their request, they had a meeting with her care team on Feb. 21.
“I had two whiteboards filled up with questions left unanswered, tests left undone, and every other question we could think of,” Amber Engebretson wrote on her Facebook page that day.
Amber Engebretson said that at one point during that meeting, she told the staff she felt like they “don’t give a f***,” later apologizing for her language. She also asked for a second doctor to stop taking care of their daughter.
“We took no crap and laid it all on the line. … Because seriously what do we have to lose at this point,” Amber Engebretson wrote on Facebook that night.
On Feb. 22, the day after that meeting, Amber Engebretson got into a disagreement with a nursing aide and asked to have her removed from her daughter’s care team.
She was the fourth staffer the family had asked to be replaced in just three weeks.
That afternoon, Amber Engebretson says, she was scheduled to have a meeting with the social worker — the same one she’d asked to leave her daughter’s care.
Amber Engebretson had requested the meeting, and she says that as she approached the office at the appointed time, a man she’d never seen was standing in the office doorway.
She said he saw her coming and went into the office and shut the door.
Amber Engebretson listened through the door. She says that as she suspected, the man and the social worker were talking about her family.
“I proceeded to open the door and say, ‘Since you’re talking about my family, I think it’s only appropriate that I would be here also, to be included in the conversation,’ ” she remembers.
She says the man puffed out his chest and stepped toward her, and she took a backward step into the hall. The man, who Amber Engebretson later learned was a physician, demanded that she leave.
She says the man told her, “I run this whole rehab unit. Do you understand me?”
Amber Engebretson describes the doctor as “intensely aggressive.”
She replied to him, she says, with similar aggression and frustration: “I need to talk to you. Do you understand me?”
The doctor walked away.
About an hour later, Gilderhus; parents say, the same doctor, the social worker and a nurse approached the family. They were accompanied by three security guards.
“[The doctor] said to me, ‘You are not allowed to participate in Alyssa’s care. You are not allowed on Mayo property. You will be escorted off the premises right now,’ ” Amber Engebretson remembers.
The Engebretsons say they asked why Gilderhus was being kicked out but did not receive an answer.
Later, a social worker would tell police that “Amber interrupted a meeting because Amber was upset over the care Alyssa was receiving. Due to that incident, Amber was escorted off of [Mayo] property.”
According to Gilderhus’ parents, the doctor told Duane Engebretson that he could stay but that he would not be allowed to have any involvement in his stepdaughter’s care.
The couple say they asked the doctor whether they could speak with a patient advocate.
“He said, ‘There is no patient advocate,’ and walked away,” Amber Engebretson said.
When asked about Amber Engebretson’s dismissal from the hospital, Mayo spokeswoman Plumbo sent a statement.
“Our care teams act in the best interests of our patients. As a general practice, this includes sharing information with family members and facilitating family visits and interactions with patients and their care providers when the patient is in our care. However, in situations where care may be compromised or the safety and security of our staff are potentially at risk, the family members’ ability to be present in the hospital may be restricted.”
Plumbo did not elaborate on whether or how Amber Engebretson compromised her daughter’s care or placed staff at risk.
“We would never compromise her care,” Amber Engebretson said. “She’s our daughter. We love her.”
She also says she never put staff members at risk.
“We would never do that — ever,” she said.
On Feb. 23, the day after Amber Engebretson was kicked out, she went on Facebook.
“PRAYER WARRIORS UNITE!!!! We need your help. … Please READ THIS AND SHARE THIS POST in hopes it reaches the people or person who can help us,” she wrote.
“I HAVE BEEN TOLD I AM NOT ALLOWED IN ALYSSA’S ROOM AND NO ONE IS ALLOWED TO HAVE ANY SAY OR PARTICIPATE IN HER [CARE]. … I AM NOT ALLOWED TO SEE HER!! We have been given no reason why, no paperwork, and no explanations,” she continued. “I never imagined something like this could happen in our world and a very hard situation already has been made even harder!!”
The response from one Facebook user led the family to conclude that they needed to get Gilderhus out of Mayo, and fast.
Gilderhus, who was legally an adult during her entire hospitalization, says that around this time, she started asking doctors and nurses to transfer her to another facility.
She says she never received a response.
“They were cruel to me,” Gilderhus said, adding that she wanted to get out of Mayo “as bad as possible.”
On Feb. 23, three weeks into her daughter’s stay in rehab, Amber Engebretson complained on Facebook, tagging Mayo.
“They refuse to let her go. … We cannot transfer [Alyssa] out or get her discharged,” she wrote. “No one has any say in [Alyssa’s care] and she is basically a prisoner of Mayo.”
Alyssa’s stepfather and grandmother say they also asked to have her transferred out of Mayo.
“I asked two to three times a day, and it would go nowhere,” Duane Engebretson said.
“Duane said, ‘This is ridiculous. We don’t want her here; Alyssa doesn’t want to be here; she doesn’t feel safe here,’ ” her grandmother Aimee Olson remembers. “But there was no response.”
Duane Engebretson said he tried to talk to a senior doctor on the rehab staff about a transfer. It was the same doctor who had asked his wife to leave the hospital.
“He said ‘I have nothing to say to you. This is a legal problem,’ ” Duane Engebretson remembers. “I even asked him, ‘Can I speak to your supervisor, your boss,’ and his exact words were ‘I run this whole floor,’ and [he] turned around and walked out of the room, and that was it.’
Duane Engebretson said he called the Mayo Patient Experience office and in a 45-minute phone call described the family’s grievances.
He said the patient experience specialist told him he would be back in touch after getting Mayo’s side of the story.
Olson said she also tried to speak with the senior doctor but was told he wasn’t available.
“She was truly being held captive,” Olson said. “I would never believe a hospital could do that — never in my wildest dreams.”
The family and a friend say they were instructed by Mayo staff not to talk to Gilderhus about her mother.
Two nurses were assigned to be with Gilderhus , and they kept careful watch, according to visitors.
“It was like they were watching every move you made,” said Joy Schmitt, Gilderhus’ boyfriend’s mother, who visited frequently after Amber Engebretson was asked to leave the hospital.
On FGeb. 21, the day before her mother was kicked out of the hospital, a Mayo psychiatrist examined Gilderhus and found that she lacked the capacity to make her own medical decisions, according to a summary of her care that her doctors wrote after she left Mayo.
Around this time, a hospital social worker went to adult protection services in two counties to try to get those authorities to get guardianship over Gilderhus, according to the police.
If they had succeeded, she would have become a ward of the state.
Gilderhus and her family say that they weren’t told any of this as it was happening but that around this time, they started to feel that Mayo was isolating Gilderhus.
On Feb. 26, staffers confiscated Gilderhus’ cellphone, laptop and tablet after finding that she’d made a video for her mother, according to Gilderhus and her family.
They say Gilderhus’ visitors were also banned from bringing their devices into the hospital.
The same day, Mayo staffers said no one would be allowed to stay overnight with Gilderhus, according to April Chance, who attended a meeting with Alyssa’s care team.
Duane Engebretson said he asked the staff to reconsider. He said his stepdaughter had never spent the night alone in the hospital. But he says they refused.
“The doctors said they were doing this for Alyssa’s own benefit,” Duane Engebretson said.
The family says the doctors also told them that visitors would no longer be allowed to attend Gilderhus’ treatment sessions, such as physical and occupational therapy.
“I said, ‘We’re her cheerleaders. We cheer her on,’ ” her aunt remembers. “And they said ‘No, you’re impeding her care.'”
She said the staff didn’t elaborate on how they were impeding her care.
“They were restricting us little by little from even being with Alyssa. They were taking over our daughter,” Duane Engebretson said.
Mayo also pushed back Gilderhus’ discharge date, which was supposed to be Feb. 27.
Meanwhile, her mother’s following was growing on Facebook, with many users posting angry messages that tagged Mayo.
One woman sent Amber Engebretson links to stories about a teenager named Justina Pelletier.
Articles in The Boston Globe and elsewhere described how in 2013, Pelletier, then 14 years old, was placed in state custody for nearly 16 months after Boston Children’s Hospital accused her parents of interfering in her care.
She spent much of that time in a psychiatric ward.
Amber Engebretson said she spoke on the phone with Pelletier’s parents, Linda and Lou Pelletier.
She said they warned her there would be signs that the hospital was seeking guardianship for their daughter. They would keep a tight watch over her and limit her communications with her family.
Through their lawyer, John T. Martin, the Pelletiers confirmed they had conversations with Amber Engebretson.
A spokeswoman for Boston Children’s Hospital said the hospital is “committed to the best interest of our patients’ health and well-being” and declined to discuss the specifics of the case.
Amber Engebretson sent a text to the woman who’d sent her the news articles.
“OMG I am SICK. This is what is happening,” Amber Engebretson wrote. “It rings lots and lots of bells. … Omg … I am so scared.”
Gilderhus’ parents reached out to a friend of a friend for help: Mark Gaalswyk, who at the time was a member of the board of directors for the Mayo Clinic Health System in Fairmont, Minnesota.
Gaalswyk emailed a Mayo Clinic vice president. He informed her of the situation.
“Could you please please do what you can to get your arms around the [situation] immediately?!” he wrote. “Please get to the bottom of this quickly before it blows up even more.”
But Gaalswyk’s pull wasn’t enough. He said Mayo treated Gilderhus “terribly.”
“I’m probably the most pro-Mayo person who has walked the face of this Earth,” said Gaalswyk, who left the board Jan. 1. “But this was a mess.”
He said he thinks Gilderhus probably “used words she shouldn’t have” with hospital staff.
“I’m not saying that Amber is 100 percent in the right, but I know what Mayo did is not OK at all,” he said.
In its statement, the Mayo spokeswoman said “Mayo Clinic is committed to the safety and wellbeing of all the patients we treat.”
Feeling like they were running out of options, Gilderhus’ parents then enlisted the help of Karie Rego, an attorney and patient advocate they’d met on Facebook.
On Feb. 27, Rego spoke on the phone with Joshua Murphy, Mayo’s chief legal officer, and faxed him a letter urging Mayo to transfer Gilderhus to another facility.
“Given what has happened here, an expedited transfer this coming week would be best for everyone,” she wrote.
Rego says an attorney in Murphy’s office called her later. She says that he told her he couldn’t speak with her and that she never heard anything more from Mayo’s legal department.
That night, Gilderhus’ parents thought about Pelletier and the 16 months she spent in state custody.
They went online and printed a form for Gilderhus to sign, saying she was leaving the hospital against medical advice.
But her parents didn’t know how they would get her out. Two nurses were assigned to keep watch over her at all times.
They started to hatch a plan to get her out of Mayo the very next day.AlertMe